Missing: Notice the loss or absence of. Feel regret or sadness at no longer being able to enjoy the presence of, Not present or included when expected or supposed to be, a person who is absent from a place and of unknown whereabouts,
I doubt that there is one person reading this article that is not experiencing the absence of someone special in their lives. How can we not love and suffer the loss thereof when it departs?
Sometimes, when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated.~Lamartine
This is such a profound, to the poignant quote which hits one right in the middle of ones chest. When a loved one is absent it leaves a gap which will and should never be filled.
We cannot truly know the depth of love for another unless we have experienced the deep sorrow of loss. We can all strive for improvement and growth in our personal lives, aim to achieve our goals, climb to new heights when we push ourselves beyond our perceived limits, study to become learned, exercise to become fitter – but nothing can prepare us for “missing”. Nothing.
This past year has seen many deaths in our community whether it was caused by accidents, war or physical ailments. There have been families that have been torn apart for various reasons ranging from divorce to disagreements. I know people have just gone – left one day and haven’t returned. People have moved to other countries and chosen the land far away as their new home. Friendships and relationships have been dissolved but do we not still miss?
In some way we are all missing loved ones. I think that the feeling encapsulates quite a few emotions all wrapped in one. We have the longing for that person to come back. We feel sadness of missing, the grief of knowing we may never / will never see that person again. What about longing – we long to be or see those we miss. We remember the happy times, feel a sense of nostalgia. All around unexpectedly there will be triggers that bring memories to the surface and we ‘miss’ all over again. I don’t think that we can ever not miss someone that we love or have loved when they are no longer a part of our lives.
Whenever there is a festival or celebration of sorts it brings the ‘missing’ to the fore. Will there be someone who will be missing from your table? Someone who once was very special to you? Will you grieve for the lack of their presence in your life? Will you look upon memories with wishful longing? Do you have photographs that constantly remind you of how it used to be? How do you quell this intense feeling? Do you want it to stop because in reality it feels like it is ripping your insides slowly?
No, I think that the best thing to do is to let that feeling be felt, let the sadness roll with the tears – let it escape from your soul. By now you should be aware that I write poetry in the depths of my sadness / sorrow and perhaps writing a letter or a poem to that person can help you to feel at ease, telling them how much you miss them and how much they blessed or added value to your life. There is no escape from the missing, just sometimes it lies quietly in the background, other times it stands right in front of you and shouts in your face. It is an emotion that although should not rule your life, it cannot be quashed or pushed aside.
So when you feel the absence of a dearly beloved one, although sad, try to bring the happy memories to the fore and be grateful that they blessed your life one way or another
As always I welcome your comments.