I find it quite fascinating that they don't seem to realise that although their needs are met at that precise moment in time, the manipulated ones tend to see through the shenanigans after a while.
You know, as an INTJ, we are often critisised for our directness and lack of consideration for the feelings of others, and quite frankly I think we put too much into this "emotional" state. Who have we become?
A bunch of cry babies when we don't get what we want?
Oh yes, that's what we are reduced to. I say that if you want different you need to DO different. If you want attention, BE a nicer and kinder person. If you want to be recognised, work harder and learn more. If you want something done, DO it YOURSELF. Nobody will constantly feed that hungry mouth you present to the world - some where some time somebody will get sick and tired of your cry-baby attitude.
The world doesn't owe you anything. From the moment you turned 18 you have been responsible for EVERY decision and action you have taken. I don't care about your sad childhood, your poor standard of living, your lack of shoes or clothes, your unloving parents, your non existent education.... GET A GRIP - ADULT.... or are you going to continue to play the little baby bird in the nest?
If you want different DO different.