Reflecting on how I have acted and reacted to certain people and situations I have come to the conclusion that I have to make some drastic steadfast decisions to change my attitude in some areas of my life.
I have to start using the word NO more often even to those who I love. I have to realise that there are people who I regarded as friends who just do not reciprocate the friendship so I should let go and say NO when they come knocking on my door for favours. I realise that family members are treating me with disrespect and even though I run the risk of alienating them, just because they are family does not give them the right to treat me in such a manner. There just has to come a time when that apron string has to be cut, a re-calc is necessary.
When is it ok to cut the string, just how much abuse is a person supposed to take before we make that decision?
To give you an example - I happened upon a person towards the end of last year who had slandered me in a moment of unbridled anger many months prior. Their behaviour resulted in me having to take drastic measures I would normally not have had reason to take. They greeted me as though nothing had transpired, still wanting to engage in small talk about how I have been etc. I could not believe this! No conscience, no regret, no apology, no embarrassment or shame! I casually greeted and moved away when I should have let this person know that under no circumstances was he/she to engage in any way, shape or form with me because this is the price you pay for maltreating another person.
Why didnt I? Well, I like to think that I am the bigger person with more control over my emotion and my reaction to any given situation.
Truth be told I EXPECT others to treat me with respect, love, consideration but this seems to be unrealistically optimistic. Oh well, there is no perfect world out there, no perfect people - and that includes me! So we have to play the cards we are dealt, move away from people and circumstances that are negative and learn to say NO and stick to it!
Hmm sometimes being a softie should NOT mean that they can walk over you