If this is so then should we really be judging and persecuting those that do not conform to our ideas of acceptability?
NLP makes a distinction between the intent and the action and by recognising this we should be less likely to react in a negative way, but rather in an understanding and more tolerant way and realise that we can love them IN SPITE of their differences in thought and action.
Life coaches and NLP therapists can assist in guiding and suggesting alternative behaviour patterns that keep the self confidence in tact while allowing the person to pursue his/her intent.