Convince: cause someone to believe firmly in the truth of something or someone.
We excuse our sloth under the pretext of difficulty – Marcus Fabius Quintilian
Being in a comfort zone (i.e. doing something the same way as we always have) means that we are more or less content with our life the way it is presently. There is no reason to change because change means that we have to upset the balance we carefully protect – our comfort zone. Why would we want to mess with this safety net? Well, it can be a desire to learn a new skill, move to a different part of the country or world, start a family even change your hair colour we all have goals that we would like to achieve not so? I doubt that we are all complacent and just let life pass us by… we all have some dream we would like to pursue.
So what process do you do follow when you have decided to do something new? Plot a mind map? Write it down? Tell a friend and ask for assistance? Daydream and list all the possibilities? Research the subject?
Now that you have the goal set, it is time for action. Action means that we have to physically start the process. Hmm feels a little awkward doesn’t it? Suddenly reality sets in and we realise that things are busy changing and this is scary. Do you know what happens when we are afraid of change? We want to turn around and hightail it back to our safe place! I hear so many excuses given whilst in actual fact we are too scared of failure, hard work, what we would have to give up in order to make space for a new activity to name a few.
I’ll tell you what makes us so afraid, so hesitant – it is the influx of negative thought either of our own doing (we think we are not clever enough perhaps) of the influence of those close to us (they think of everything that can go wrong, have their own ideas of how things should be etc). If we all had a huge helping of good self esteem and an extra serving of courage, new adventures would be a meal to be enjoyed every day. Sadly some of us have grown up sheltered by paranoid parents who used fear as a disciplinary tool. Some of us have been severely punished when we have strayed from the accepted societal norms. Some of us have tried a new thing and have failed and now have a perpetual fear of failure. Some of us live our lives according to the direction and advice of others and never know what it is like to be their own person… we are all stuck somewhere for whatever reason!
So given a little thought, we will realise what it is that makes us afraid. What is it that keeps us there? Ah, yes it is the list of excuses we have come to realise work for us! These excuses are quite believable and plausible, valid perhaps in the eyes of those we choose to give them to. We become quite skilled at lying and or convincing. We use really good ones on ourselves so that we don’t have to be accountable for the consequences of failure. We can pretty much think ourselves out of anything we don’t think we can or want to do by using negative thought. So what to do?
Our minds are powerful tools and if we can convince ourselves of reasons NOT to do something, then surely we can convince ourselves that we CAN! You know the saying goes you can do anything if you set your mind to it? Well it is used rather lightly in conversations but how often have we actually put it in action? Can we put a filtering system in place whereby we cut out the excuses, the fear, the negative thoughts and influences of others? I can tell you this: if you have friends that help you constructively, support you positively then you are truly blessed, for when our faith is failing they put us back on track! If we only have those that are sympathetic and negative, then throw them out the window. Read books that encourage you, watch DVDs that inspire you, listen to audio tracks on positive thinking so that you flood your mind with the good so much that it drowns out the negative. Let’s try not to sabotage ourselves anymore. Let’s take this life we have and learn how to fly!