Seasons are changing slowly.. The morning sunrise is painted in big bold sweeps of pink, light blue and white. I have illustrated my observations to you of my experiences this morning, and I wonder how many of you see the beauty that I do in the world around you.
As you all know by now I am an observer and our diversity never ceases to intrigue me. So many of us have thick heavy clouds that unburden themselves over us and we are hurt, confused and sad. Tears fall uncontrollably. We feel lost and alone and the emptiness inside our hearts leaves us feeling as if our very soul has been wrenched from our chests. Beauty and appreciation is far beyond our reach when we are emotionally overwhelmed. Others have ladles of stress worrying about share prices, business deals, career development, studies and climbing the ladder of success. Brows are furrowed and our minds are churning with all the details and strategies. We are so engrossed within ourselves that we snap at those close to us and passive aggressive behaviour is all too common. In this very different mind-set we lose sight of the quest of happiness and joy too. The fact that we give power to our emotions to such an extent that we bruise not only our own self-esteem, but the feelings and the relationships of those closest to us is absolutely frightening.
The point that I want to make you understand this weekend is twofold: Firstly - embrace the reactions to the emotion, accept that it is an expression of the feelings welling up inside. It is good to vent or work through them, but be mindful of how you go about it. Secondly – take a moment to reflect on what triggered the emotion and learn the lesson… Do not throw the baby out with the bath water!
"Even when walking in the company of two other men, I am bound to be able to learn from them. The good points of the one I copy; the bad points of the other I correct in myself." Confucius
This quote above triggered memories of a talk I listened to the other evening and I observed the responses expressed by the audience thereafter. There were both positive and negative reactions. We naturally gravitate toward those that are like-minded. Those that were positive chatted happily amongst themselves and those that were negative fed their negativity together. The question that came to my mind was: Did they take something of value out of the talk or not?
Do you sometimes find yourself in a similar situation where you stand in judgement of someone or something? Are you allowing your emotions to dictate how you react? Do you in the midst of emotion do a personal check to find out why you are negative or positive? What it is that you are resisting or fighting against? Could it be that you think you are right and are not open to the possibility that there are other facets of the truth besides your own? What kick are you getting out of the conversation that makes you feel so good? Do you add value to others – sow good seeds? Can you see that even though you may choose to align yourself with positive people, you may be trying to deny the existence of the darker side of your psyche, which you have not accepted yet? Do you acknowledge that you are in fact vulnerable or aggressive at times, and are you able to love yourself anyway? Will you just push aside the things you don’t like, or will you make a concerted effort to recognise that this is an opportunity to learn and change? Are you ready to become aware? Have you positioned yourself to be ready to chew and perhaps digest the concept that there is always a lesson in whatever situation presents?