Priority: The state of having most importance or urgency, somebody or something that is ranked highly in terms of importance or urgency.
Have you thought a little about how much of life you really take the time to enjoy? I have found that it is common for people to fill their lives with things they HAVE to do instead of things they LOVE to do. We spend two thirds of our waking time at work - to earn a living to pay for that lovely house we want, for the car we need in order to get to work, to send our children to the best possible schools - but we come home late, exhausted, spent and find that we don’t have time left to actually enjoy all those things that have worked so hard to get!
"Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least” Goethe
Do you know what happiness is as far as you are concerned and are you in constant pursuit of it? Not what others deem to be a state of happiness – I want you to take a few minutes to think about what defines YOUR state of joy, peacefulness, happiness and serenity. Now ask yourself if you are striving to seek out that which makes you happy. There is no incorrect answer!
Take a good look at your life right now. What do you deem to be important to you right now? What is it that takes precedence over everything? Perhaps it is work, a hobby or an addictive behaviour. Does this give you a sense of fulfilment and accomplishment? Does it edify you and those you love or is it destructive? Ask yourself whether you are prioritising these factors in order to escape from something - is this is a passion or obsession?
Let’s do a little exercise quickly:
Write down all the things you think are your values. Values are self chosen beliefs and ideals, internal and or subjective based on how we see the world. Your values are influenced by upbringing, society and personal reflection. Your values are filtered by the conscious mind through paradigms or theories. This is the way you perceive, understand and interpret your world. So if you value recognition, identify what it is about recognition, through your understanding and paradigms that you value. Remember values are not things. List at least 10 values.
On another write down all the things you deem important to you right now; house, car, image, career, studies and hobbies. List at least 10 priorities in your life right now that you are prioritising and pursuing.
Now I would like you to compare each list: Your values versus your priorities. Where does this leave you? Are you living your values and matching your priorities?
I want to take this a step further: Scratch out all the materialistic goals and ideals (e.g. you want to live in Beverley Hills and drive a Corvette), imagine you have 3 days left to live.
What is important now? Are you giving weight to those things that REALLY matter?
Be careful how you prioritise.