I am definitely happier being in a warm climate all year round, I have to admit. Whilst driving home the other day I saw a grass fire, being fanned by a strong wind, creeping along the open plains in Midrand. This is a rather typical sight here in Gauteng in winter. There are certain plants and trees that need fire to seed; grass needs the thatch to be burned away, in order for new growth to occur. In the spring time the "veld" or grassland gives a splendid show of light green shoots, which then turns into a deep green colour in summer - a metamorphosis from charred remains to full beauty once again.
A Phoenix rising from the flames..
We all are subjected to life and its roller-coaster effect it has on our psyche through our existence. We all tend to "manage" by gritting our teeth through the bumpy rides and coasting along the smooth paths. Sometimes though a situation or event forces its way into our faces, so to speak, and we can no longer deny its existence, ignore it, explain it away, detach ourselves from it, procrastinate and leave it for another day - it just presents itself in its entirety, and says plainly "DEAL WITH ME"!! We are only human, and our natural responses to change are as mentioned above. Humans don't like change, we fear the unknown, we hate to be blamed or held responsible for the wrong choices we may make or have made in the past, and we have an insatiable need to be in control. Change does not offer any guarantee that things will pan out the way we want, so we resist it at all costs until the day it stares down on us ......
Khalil Gibran says in his book "The Prophet" that we are like clay that needs to be moulded, shaped, painted and fired. If the clay pot is not fired, it will begin to leak and not be a fully functional vessel. We need to know / experience the depths of sorrow and despair in order that we may know and recognise happiness and joy.
We need to go through the shockingly hard times in order to rise from the ashes, renewed and open to new life, like the Phoenix. Life's truths are very hard to swallow and accept sometimes, but these things are shown to us, not by accident, I believe. Somewhere in our subconscious we know when things are not right and a change needs to be effected. We need the change so that we can learn another lesson and grow by it. I have witnessed friends going through a really rough time when they were retrenched, but have come back to deliver messages of wonderful things that have materialised in their lives. I have met people who feel that their lives have ended because their legs or arms have been amputated, only to say that they have found a renewed sense of living. I have seen people burnt so badly feel that they could not stand the humiliation of showing their faces in public stand up with confidence and deliver messages of hope to others. I have seen marriages fall apart, homes broken, only for each spouse to say afterwards that they have grown within themselves and have learned to love unselfishly.
The fires of life though hot and unpleasant, perhaps are there to destroy the things in your lives that rob you of your joy, serenity, focus, trust, depth and growth. Once the fire has swept through our lives, we can see what it is that we have missed by walking that road we were previously on, and then we can facilitate the necessary change.
Whatever crisis pre-empts the change in your life, know that you can rise from the ashes, renewed, restored to a new existence from the destruction that you felt / feel