Ah, the joys of youth, where we played ‘dress-up’ and pretended to be the princess, the pirate, the cowboy, we could be whoever we chose to be.
Costumes were fashioned from scraps of material and together with Mum’s hats and Dad’s old shirts or shoes we looked the part! We would take turns to build castles out of cardboard boxes, ride brooms that were our trusty stallions, run from imaginary devils and sit on magic carpets which were a little wet because they were our swimming towels an hour before. It was a truly a team effort. The storyboard was set and the acts began. I think most began with one-liners like “I'm going to be the princess and you can be the dragon slayer” and we made it up as we went along each child adding their little ideas and visions to the scene. I don’t recall ever discussing the ending though, the game went on until it was time to go home. There were plenty of tomorrows that lay before us where we could continue the next chapter in the fantasy saga. We shared a vision, acted out our dreams and it felt good! Those were such fun times when friends supported each other no matter what we chose to be that day.
“Just because others cannot share your vision do not allow them to rob you of your dreams” Judy Mills
During a pensive moment, this thought came to mind: I wonder how many of you are too afraid to strive towards your goals because you are afraid of what others may say or think.
Compromise is an essential building block to any relationship irrespective of the nature thereof. We need to accommodate our partners, friends and family in order to get along or achieve a common goal. The ebb and flow of changing situations call for a re-adjustment of our stances. What can be bothersome is if we stunt our own vision, passion or goals in this process.
Do you sacrifice your dreams or vision because your partner, friends or family may disapprove or criticize? Take a moment to understand the following: NOBODY can fully understand or identify with you completely, no matter how close they are to you. People may identify with some aspects of your life but do not think or react like you do.
Therefore, can you afford to put your dreams on hold because of others' opinions and lack of understanding? Is this being fair to yourself in the end? I think not. Is there something you have always wanted to do but have put on the shelf for now? If so, have you decided on a plan of action going forward? Are you are undecided on how and where to start? Ever thought of asking a life coach to help you unpack these ideas and set goals? Why don’t you seek like-minded people that you can share your vision with or those that have to capacity to help you see what role you need to play to achieve what you set out to do?
Please realize that striving to achieve your goals or dreams does not give you a license to blindly overrule or discount every one that challenges you and your motives, nor do I mean for you to openly tread on others' feelings to get what you want out of life. I do mean for you to make what you want out of life important enough to do something about it
Take the time to open your box of dreams, promise yourself that you will rise to the challenges that a dream may offer. Jump off the cliff; take the chance to be everything you can be for yourself.
You will find a veritable gold mine of self-confidence, insight and wisdom within you! As always, I welcome your comments