I would like you to think of this little sentence over the weekend.
"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong" Mahatma Ghandi
Do you realise that carrying un-forgiveness in your heart destroys the prospect of a fulfilled, serene life? It seems to taint every situation in some way. There is always something that reminds us of the un-forgiven person, and we send out negative thoughts not only towards that person, but perhaps apportion blame to ourselves. We ponder over how we should have handled the particular situation, what we could have said or should have done.
Every time we remember how we have been unjustly treated, betrayed, hurt, used, it conjures up memories of the bad things that have happened in our walk through life. There are things that we aren’t able to go back in time to fix. As much as we may wish for it, time cannot be reversed. Who are we then punishing by regurgitating all this pain, chewing on it, swallowing it, digesting it only to begin the process once again when we call on those bad memories? Is it not ultimately destroying our own soul? We pollute our present and rent space in our brains to something so dark and destructive. It has been suggested that un-forgiveness can result in physical illness too.
What if the un-forgiveness is directed towards someone who is deceased, un-reachable or unapproachable - what do you do then?? In order to forgive do you not need to ask forgiveness from another person to gain release? Not necessarily. You can forgive in absence and still be free. Forgive yourself for things you may / should have done and words you may / may not have said.
Forgiveness is essentially a release of negativity in your life. Surrender yourself to acceptance - accept that there is really nothing - yes nothing - you can do to change the past.
Accept too that there is everything - yes everything - you can do to change your future. Forgive, and move forward. Are you strong enough to do that?
As always I welcome your comments.