Enemy: Somebody who hates or seeks to harm somebody or something
Carl Jung is the founder of analytical psychology and his theory is that the mind, subconscious and the soul are all integrated or connected and thereby also able to be healed as long as everything is in balance.
"But what if I should discover that the very enemy himself is within me, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved - What then?" Carl Jung
Embarking on a journey of self discovery, as we all do from time to time, we naturally find it a tad disquieting. I attribute this mostly to the fact that inherently we have one main fear – fear of rejection. We have been accustomed to changing our behaviour to suit others’ needs so that we can become more acceptable, practical, logical, presentable, sensible, intellectual, responsible– reminds me of the words to Logical Song by Supertramp!
In our delving we may discover aspects we are not comfortable with and as a result reject ourselves, or that portion of our personality. We hide these traits from the world, refuse to accept that they are a part of us – all the while realising that we cannot deny who we are and who we have become. To accept that this dark side almost goes against the grain, we want to portray only the good side to the world because that is what makes us accepted, less rejected. This can leave us perturbed somewhat, because what now? Can we disallow certain aspects of our own personality? Is this possible or even feasible? Well, we deal with these in a number of ways according to Jung.
Denial - vehemently deny that we have a dark side; refuse to accept that it is there. Projection - We reject in others that which we reject in ourselves. Integration – recognise the Jekyll and Hyde aspects as they arise and finally, Transmutation – we decide which behaviour needs reforming or change and act on it.
Introspection does lead us to the ultimate truth about who we are in order to give us all an opportunity to do something about it. Knowing this, should it not be that in order to overcome prejudices, we need to accept others but also be more accepting of ourselves? Can we look at others with compassion because we are all fighting something within ourselves?
Should we not choose to take a positive attitude together with a pinch of motivation to love ourselves unconditionally? Can we recognise that we are made up of many facets ranging from good to bad and we have the power, determination and fortitude to make a change? How can we love others, with all their perceived faults, if we cannot love ourselves in the same fashion?